It is about time to go back to school. Therefore across the country, freshmen are receiving wisdom from the upperclassmen. This is no different than my Alma Mater. There are people getting ready to help the freshman and transfers get adjusted into SWU life. Last year, a friend and myself made a list of advice that we would give. Since I am transitioning to a new life, I feel like the advice is applicable to every time for transition. Before you read any of this, I am not perfect. I still struggle to with a couple of these areas. Every word I write is affirmation to make it though.
1. People will be better than you at things you are good at.
Bill Nye has been quoted to say, “Everyone you will ever meet knows something you don’t.” It may be disappointing when you see someone exceeding at something that you think is your thing. Yet, that is a fact of life. There is no need to sabotage that person. It might even be an opportunity to learn. It might be as simple as asking the person for pointers, or if you are so inclined, you may be able to watch the person. Do not be a stalker or a creeper though. Just learn enough to help you on your journey.
2. Don’t compare yourself to others.
What? I tell you that people will be better than you, and then, you are not allowed to compare yourself. There is a difference between the two. The first is admitting a fact, and the other is something that can lead to some rough places. Nothing comes from comparing yourself and doing nothing about it. See, the majority of the problem come from focusing on what you are doing wrong. This is about this that sort of comparison.
3. Don’t quit.
Catherine Tate is my role model. She was my favorite companion in Doctor Who and is stunning in Much Ado About Nothing. This has been circulating the Internet and has helped me through the past couple of months:
This past year was very tough for me. There were days where I wanted to do just that. There are still some days that I want to do that. Yet, I have also had some wonderful days. I would not have traded those days where I was shining for days being shut away. If one dreams dies, there has to be another dream somewhere.
4. Don’t Change Yourself for Others.
There are two types of change: for oneself and for others. It is very easy to change for others. Yet, they always seem to have another motive. Don’t change just to belong. There are other people who will embrace you the way that you are. Change because it will make you a better person. Change because you cannot stay the same. Ask people to help you through your change. Yet even in the change, never compromise your own style. If the helpers are supportive, they can deal with your will to be true to yourself. If they are not supportive, you may not need them.
5. Take care of yourself.
Please take care of yourself. Don’t get so obsessed with someone else’s stuff that you forget your own needs. Sleep can be forgotten trying to solve the problems of the world. Yet, don’t let that control your life. In the School of Education at my college, they had a Christian Ethic of Care. The ethic is about how teachers should take care of students and parents and colleagues and community people. Yet before we take care of any of these other people, we were supposed to take care of the self first. We are told that we cannot be an impact to others while we are not at our best.